Category: Best Use of my Time (Page 5 of 7)

Conclusion to Embracing Fifty

October 31, 2017 / juliesc@pacbell.net / 2 Comments

Before I began this series, I approached my 50th birthday with much hesitancy. As I spent the entire month evaluating how I wanted to live my life in my fifties, my excitement grew. The more I thought and wrote, the more my anxiety waned and my anticipation soared. Now I can’t wait to leap into this new decade of my life.

The task of determining my values was not an easy one. It took a lot of soul searching and frank honesty within myself. I laughed and cried at my computer keyboard as I reflected on what I valued most and how I wanted to rest of my life to look. I would highly recommend this activity to anyone who wants to be more intentional with how they live each day of the rest of their life.

Thank you so much for reading my 31 day series. I hope it inspired you to consider how you choose to live the remaining days of your life. I’d love to talk to you more about it and will answer all comments. I wish each of you an amazing life!

This post is part of a 31 Day Blogging Challenge entitled Embracing Fifty. Please click here to find all the posts in this series. You can find the work of more bloggers participating in this series here. You’ll be glad you did!

Loving Others Well

October 30, 2017 / juliesc@pacbell.net / 0 Comments

I can’t think of a single better way to use the rest of my life than loving others well. Before my eyes are even fully open in the morning, I have already mumbled “I love you” to my husband and scratched one of the cats. Before I get out of bed, I express my love to God by reading His Word, applying it to my life, worshiping Him, and praying for over 100 people. When I spend this time with God, I find that He fills me to overflowing with love so I can’t help but look for opportunities to love others all day, from those closest to me to those I have not yet met.

Love can be expressed in so many ways. We often thing of it as physical affection, but that is just one way to show love. We can make time to spend with others in deep conversation. We can do something kind for others. We can encourage one another with our words. We can let someone know we are thinking of them with a text message, phone call, or a gift. Even a smile to the grocery checker or the person in the car next to you in a traffic jam can ease a burden and make someone feel special.

The current rhythm of modern American life is becoming so fast-paced and impersonal that stopping to unselfishly invest in another’s happiness seems unnatural. So many days I fail at loving others well. I get caught up in the rush of life and my own agenda that I view others as obstacles to what I need to do instead of high priorities. It is only when I go to God to get refreshed in His love that I have enough to give others.

When I am no longer on this earth, I want to be remembered as someone who loved others well!

Savoring Each Moment

October 29, 2017 / juliesc@pacbell.net / 2 Comments

Our lives are moving at a quicker pace than they ever have. We have our to-do lists, our cell phone notifications, and overpacked schedules to keep us busy from the time the alarm sounds in the dark hours of the morning until late at night. We are constantly thinking towards the next thing.

It’s hard to slow down and appreciate the little things in life, yet this is exactly what is necessary for a healthy and balanced life. When we look at life as an experience instead of a destination, we can enjoy the journey so much more.

When I participated in the Eugene Half Marathon this Spring, I’m sure I would have had a much faster finishing time if I totally focused on pushing my body as hard as I could and didn’t look around to savor the atmosphere. I met a friend with a similar pace, and as we passed something interesting, I would say under my breath, “I always want to remember this.” She looked at me with an odd expression until I told her of my quest to enjoy the memories I was making step by step along race. She soon joined my glee as we witnessed someone playing a didgeridoo to cheer us on, a live pet duck sitting on its owner’s lap at the curb, the bright signs on poster board that encouraged us, and the beautiful Willamette River flowing under us as we crossed multiple bridges. By the time I entered the stadium that housed the legendary Hayward Field, where many Track and Field World Championships have occurred, tears escaped my eyes at the glory of the crowds cheering, the brisk wind, the blue sky, the worship music playing in my headphones, and the finish line stretched out before me. I savored it!

One of my favorite verses in the Bible takes place during the telling of Christ’s birth in Luke 2. In the midst of the birth of the Messiah, the angels’ chorus, the shepherds’ visit, and the animals in the stable, Mary took the time to savor the moment. She must have been exhausted from having her first child out of town in a stable with many visitors, but Luke 2:19 says, “But Mary treasured up all these things and pondered them in her heart.”

Let’s be like Mary and treasure and ponder in our hearts!

Purpose

October 28, 2017 / juliesc@pacbell.net / 0 Comments

We all have exactly the same amount of time in each day, 24 hours or 1,440 minutes. We also have a limited amount of time on this earth. Each day, I’m getting a little closer to leaving this earth for heaven. I have no idea whether today will be my last day here or I’ll live another 50+ years. With that in mind, I am stating my intent to spend the rest of my days living life on purpose.

Determining the purpose of our life here on earth can be difficult when we are young. As we get to know ourselves better, we see our strengths and weakness, figure out what we are drawn to and passionate about, and feel a greater sense of urgency to accomplish what we are set on this earth to do and to leave a legacy that will live beyond us. We also learn to silence the critics easier, whether the criticism comes from those around us or our misconceptions about ourselves.

Summarizing my purpose into a succinct mission statement is tricky for me. I have a blurry exposure what my purpose is to be but am slowly bringing that into focus through applying my circumstances and gaining wisdom. The two biggest words that come into my mind when I consider my purpose are encouraging and teaching. Sometimes these two purposes can overlap since so much of teaching is catching our students, children, spouses, and friends doing the right thing then urging them to continue in that direction. I can encourage and teach almost anyone I come into contact with, whether they realize I am doing that or not.

What do you think your purpose is in life?

Hope for the Future

October 27, 2017 / juliesc@pacbell.net / 0 Comments

One of my favorite Christmas traditions as a child was sitting next to our stereo cabinet listening to Lionel Barrymore’s portrayal of Ebenezer Scrooge on an album of Charles Dickens’ A Christmas Carol. I loved the sound effects, the background music, the lively reading of the well-loved book, and especially Barrymore’s characterization of Scrooge. I was a naturally fearful child, and the visits by each of the ghosts caused me to hide under a blanket for protection. The most terrifying ghost to me was the Ghost of Christmas Future. In fact, I can still remember the terror in Barrymore’s voice as he pronounced, “I fear you more than any specter I have seen.” This was my first exposure to the word, future, so I always associated the future with anxiety and panic.

I’m learning that we can anticipate the future with great hope and excitement or we can dread it. The choice is ours. The future will inevitably contain both positive and negative elements. I am assured that I will die in the future, unless Jesus returns before then. I could choose to focus my life on that so much that it prevents me from living today to the fullest. I can look forward to upcoming great times with loved ones, the addition of a new generation to our family tree, and the chance to grow and learn into my fifties, sixties, and seventies. I can’t wait to see just how valuable my golden years will be!

Nurturing Myself

October 25, 2017 / juliesc@pacbell.net / 0 Comments

Nurturing myself seemed like a selfish use of my time when I was raising my children. My days were already so busy that taking time for myself appeared to be an impossibility. I felt like nurturing myself would be the opposite of generosity.

Now I’m convinced that the beliefs I had were lies from the enemy to keep me in a depleted, ineffective state. When I don’t allow time to refresh and recharge myself, my emotional, physical, spiritual, and social “battery” runs out and shuts off, causing me to be useless to myself and others except as an example of what not to do!

However, I don’t think we should go to the other extreme and live in constant indulgence to ourselves and call it nurture. I used to think a good way to nurture myself was to eat a pound of chocolate and watch hours of television on end to the exclusion of the needs of my family. We need God’swisdom to determine the balance.

Nurturing ourselves looks different to each person. The music and activities that soothe me may agitate someone else. I was so out of touch with who I was as a person that I didn’t know what to do with myself when I did get the opportunity to nurture myself.

Some of favorite ways to nurture myself now are listening to worship music (Sherri Youngward’s Pandora station is my favorite), reading (I’m currently over halfway through Jan Karon’s newest Mitford book), running, writing my thoughts down, petting my three cats, hanging with my husband, and going to bed early enough to allow myself eight hours of sleep.

What are your favorite ways to nurture yourself?

Generosity

October 24, 2017 / juliesc@pacbell.net / 2 Comments

I came into this world with nothing, and I expect to leave with nothing, yet I seem to hold such a tight grasp on what I accumulate in this life. I sound like a toddler, screeching, “Mine” when someone reaches for my stuff. I remember my dad, one of my greatest influences, saying, “I would be more charitable, but what have those people done to deserve it?” It wasn’t a natural thing for him nor is it natural for me.

In my fifties, I want to release my protective selfishness regarding my belongings and use what I have to help others. It makes no sense to allow things that will better serve others to take up space in my home. The release of it will give me freedom and joy.

I also want to be generous with my time. The time I spend teaching, encouraging, consoling, ministering to, and investing in others will far outlast my lifetime. When I get selfish with my time, I tend to waste it binge watching television, so it’s best to give my time to what God has for me each day, and I know God can multiply that time.

It will feel so gratifying to enter this new decade giving up that what was never mine in the first place!

Laughter

October 23, 2017 / juliesc@pacbell.net / 2 Comments

Laughter has been one of my favorite parts of life since I was a baby. There can never be too much laughter in a day. Laughter can diffuse a tense situation, break down language barriers, lighten our load, relax us, and create joyful memories. Laughter is a great gift to give to give one another. One of my daily goals is to make my husband laugh really hard. We tend to take ourselves and our lives so seriously that it feels good to step away from that just to giggle. Nothing brings a smile to my face more than the laughter of children.

As I move into this next decade I want the following words from Proverbs 31:25 said about me, “Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come.” Laughter is the perfect accessory for any time in my life, especially the time to come!

Encouragement

October 22, 2017 / juliesc@pacbell.net / 0 Comments

All Christians have spiritual gifts, those special attributes that God has given them to help others. I used to wish that I could be a great worship leader or a gifted evangelist or be able to prophesy or be a natural helper or be rich in mercy, but I haven’t been given any of these gifts. My gift is encouragement. It doesn’t look fancy and may not get noticed much in today’s world, but I like it. I can use it in both the written word and the spoken word. I love that the centerpiece of the word encouragement is courage. I believe that encouraging words have the power to equip others courage to tackle the next task, to face their fears, and to continue when they feel like quitting.

I also need to encourage myself in the same manner and let the wise and affirming words of others spur me on to grow as a person even when I don’t feel like it. I can’t think of a single situation that isn’t improved by encouragement, so I will increase doing so as I enter into this next decade!

Peace

October 19, 2017 / juliesc@pacbell.net / 0 Comments

One of my favorite influences over my life is peace yet I often take it for granted until I feel the turbulence within my spirit that shows me that peace is not reigning in my life. Peace is defined as freedom from strife or dissension; the freedom of the mind from annoyance, distraction, and anxiety; stillness; tranquility; or a state of untroubledness. It cannot be achieved by rushing or striving, only by trust in my God who longs to guard my heart and my mind with His peace.

I’ve always believed that achievement was marked by activity and busyness, but I am learning that the achievement of peace is one of the greatest achievements of all. I need to train my mind to relax and move towards God’s peace instead of the clutteredness of the world. Peace will be a vital component of my fifties and beyond!